What wolf do you feed? By Becky Wentzell CM
“What wolf do you feed?” is a powerful question to ask yourself, as you reflect on your life and are considering moving forward. Each of us, at the Centre, was asked to take a month and write a blog for our website. I have been feeding the fear side, as this is my first blog. I decided to ask questions get some feedback and to change my thoughts to the wolf that is joy, love, and faith in myself. So here it is my very first blog!
When you come to the Centre you will meet a variety of people whose main goal is to assist you in seeing your strengths and then identifying limitations that you want to work on to have the life you want to live.
Work Prep staff strive to feed the wolf that stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith. It is our belief that everyone is doing the best they can with the information they have. It is our job to offer information and create the space for the people whom we work with can then determine what will work best for them. Sometimes, this work is done on an individual basis and sometimes, it is done in a group. None of this comes easy and it requires hard work.
I have learned over time that what I think about I bring about, so I spend my moments thinking about the things I am grateful for. Some days it was a stretch, however, I was able to find at least one thing I was grateful for. I now have adopted an attitude of gratitude and find I am grateful for some very small things that I took for granted previously; like waking up in the morning, being able to see, for my body and how it functions. When I focus on the gratitude side of things I am able to be aware of opportunities and then give myself permission to take risks and try new things that make my life better. I still can be negative but the negativity doesn’t last for as long as it used to because I know negativity is just a thought and a thought can be changed.
The interesting thing about the two wolves is that you cannot feed them both at the same time. What Wolf are you feeding? You do have a choice.
Here is a story…
The Tale of Two Wolves
An Elder Cherokee American was teaching his grandchildren about life.
He said to them, “A fight is going on inside me…it is a terrible fight and it is between two wolves. One wolf represents fear, anger, envy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego. The other stands for joy, peace, love, hope, sharing, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, friendship, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion, and faith. This same fight is going on inside you, and inside every other person, too.”
The grandchildren thought about it for a minute and then one child asked the grandfather, “Which wolf will win, Grandfather?”
The old Cherokee replied, simply, “The one you feed.”